Hello friends,
In past few daz dere was lots of discussion on "Expectations"...and believe me it never ends between me and my friend..
The very first question that arises is- What exactly is expectation??
Well as far as i feel "it is to believe that other person will do something without even telling that person that he/she has to do that thing".It is such an irony that many times it happens also...cos expectations are made on the basis of past experiences...it is build on the past actions/reactions of the individual..but when belief doesn't comes true it hurts the person very badly...
Our life is full of expectations either we are expecting something from the other or someone else is expecting something from us...
The very basic expectation arises between a child and his/her parents...both of them have their own expectation from each other..and this forms a strong bonding between them...and here the relation develops...and then different feelings of love,anger, happiness everything comes into existence...
When we are small we are taught so many things..after the things have been taught it is automatically expected out of us...and if we dont do it we even get punished for that..And this teaches us to fulfill other expectations..his thing continues in our whole life..Similar expectation always exist..even we also form the similar expectations...
It is the expectations that help us gain so many things in our life..It makes us a perfect person in whatever we do..the higher the expectations the better the result..A very famous quotation "Always aim for the sky, even if you miss you will land among stars"
It is so true and helps us in achieving our goals...Our goals are nothing but the expectations of ours from ourselves..
We start developing expectation from everyone we come through..We have expectations from our teacher, our friends, our colleagues and moreover we always expect general etiquettes from everyone(consciously or unconsciously)... Even if we meet any stranger and say hello to him we expect him to reply back...if he/she doesn't replies we dont like it..
When expectations are not fulfilled it results in all the negative waves inside us..We started complaining, feeling bad, hating and everything...At extreme cases it results in conflicts also..
The question that arises is why do we get hurt when someone doesn't fulfill our expectations...Can we really stop expecting in our life...?And how to control negative feelings when doesn't fulfill our expectations...
As far as i feel its all our creation and destruction..So it can be controlled by us..
I request readers to please give your views on the above questions...
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